I have introduced engaged couples to the Boathouse at Sunday Park property for over 10 years. Some come to their initial site visit armed with binders and lists. Some couples have already visited the website. Some were just driving past, and stopped in for a quick visit. For most brides and grooms, their wedding is the first large scale event they have ever planned. But all too often, I get the impression that the bride and groom have never discussed the wedding as an event prior to visiting with me.
So, my words of wisdom for newly engaged couples: Before filling your day with appointments at local wedding venues, take the time to talk to each other. Step away from the excitement and hustle & bustle for a few moments and visualize your wedding day. Sit down with your fiancé and share what is important to each of you. Is there something you have always dreamed of having at your wedding? Is a seated dinner important to the groom? Have you always wanted to have a butterfly release? Is a garden wedding your fantasy? Once you have identified and made a list of the things that are most important to each of you, take a look at wedding venues in your area. Some local websites that will help you find the locations that fit your list include: www.richmondbridalassociation.com, www.richmondweddings.com and www.pbrichmond.com. After narrowing the field, make appointments for site tours. But don’t try to do it all in one day. Visits to wedding venues should be fun and relaxed. Whenever possible, the bride and groom should visit the sites together. If one set of parents is involved in the decision-making process due to finances, they should also be at the appointment with the couple. Limit the number of people who are visiting the site with you. Even if the Matron of Honor has been your friend forever and just got married last year, think twice before bringing her along. If too many people are on the site visit, you begin to worry about making everyone else happy.
Throughout the wedding planning, please keep in mind: the people the bride and groom should want to make happy are each other.
by Anne Roy, Director of Sales for the Boathouse


